How to let go of the mistakes
Those dang annoying son-of-a-gun mistakes. ๐
They ruin everything. One mistake turns to two, then turns to three, then ruins your life and you want to crawl in a deep dark hole and never come out.
Top 5 question I get from girl athletes…
โก๏ธHow do I not let a mistake affect the rest of my game?โฌ ๏ธ
Before I give you the answer, I’m going to tell you a little story. It’s good… or bad. ๐
Honestly, it’s hard for me to remember really specific times I struggled to let go of a mistake. Mostly because there were TOO MANY times it happened.
I remember it going down like this though…
I made a mistake. Let’s say this one was a strike out.
In that at bat, I probably got pissed at the umpire for making some bad calls, took extra hard practice swings because I was angry, you get the point here. ๐ฌ
I strike out, start making the walk of shame back to the dugout and as I pass my teammate who is going up to bat, I give her a limp high five (super encouraging for my teammate, right?!). ๐ก
Start storming into the dugout like a freakin’ tornado throwing my $h!+ everywhere. Batting gloves, bat against the fence (that probably isn’t standing upright anymore), slam my helmet down, the whole shebang. ๐ช
AND THEN (I know you’re probably thinking sheeeshh it’s not over?), I pouted on the bench, didn’t stop thinking about how bad I was, went out on defense with a poooooor attitude, felt miserable, and…
made more mistakes. ๐ข
Shocker!
Until… I met mistake freedom (AKA working on my mindset, how I approached the game, self-love, all of it). โจ
Here is the answer. ๐๐๐
I call it the Frustration Routine (literally just helped a girl in my program create a specific one for her).
๐ธStep 1: Get aware of when you are acting like a crazy person after a mistake and call yourself out
๐ธStep 2: Take a mini break and take step back for a second or minute
๐ธStep 3: Take a deep breath or five or ten
๐ธStep 4: Get clarity and reflect
What did I do well?
What did I not do so well? (easy part)
How do I grow and move forward? (game plan, constructive and positive feedback)
๐ธStep 5: Visualize yourself doing exactly what you want!
Boom! Use this after your mistakes. If it doesn’t work the first time, keep practicing!!! It’s a game-changer. ๐ฅ
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Keep on keepin’ on,
๐Paige